And now he's in a place where in order to survive, he has to open himself up to that vulnerability -- a place that happens to be full of liars, torturers, and murderers. It takes a lot of strength to open up like that -- to trust people when you're used surviving by doing the opposite. It's hard having to adjust to that. You make mistakes along the way.
When he's inconstant, I think it's not anything to do with you, or what you've said or done. It's him, being in tumult. I think the best thing to give him in turn is your steadiness... I don't always succeed at it but don't let him rile you. Remind him that he wants friends, because he does. If he storms off, give him a little space. Not that I'm asking you to take his abuse either, and if he ruins his relationship with you it's on him to fix it, but if he's remorseful I guess... be firm for yourself but kind to him?
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When he's inconstant, I think it's not anything to do with you, or what you've said or done. It's him, being in tumult. I think the best thing to give him in turn is your steadiness... I don't always succeed at it but don't let him rile you. Remind him that he wants friends, because he does. If he storms off, give him a little space. Not that I'm asking you to take his abuse either, and if he ruins his relationship with you it's on him to fix it, but if he's remorseful I guess... be firm for yourself but kind to him?